Hi again 🙂
You have answered your own question and I totally relate to how you feel. You do miss them dreadfully initially and wonder whether you have made the right decision. But as you rightly said, when they are no longer turning your life upside down with their lies and utterly selfish behaviour you can actually appreciate a new calm existence. You have the opportunity to really see the mess you have allowed yourself to be dragged into and I’m sure now you realise that you deserve so much more from a partner.
Let him sort his own life out now and luckily he has help from the prison services to try and turn his life around. Funnily enough, I too cut my ex boyfriend’s mother out of my life whilst I was still with him. She knew some of the terrible things he was doing to me including kicking my front door in but would never address his appalling behaviour unless it affected her directly. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree so well done you for cutting off a toxic mother who could only make your life even harder with her son.
Keep being strong – life is short so don’t waste anymore time with someone who even now in prison is thinking entirely about his future and not yours with him. It’s always me me me with addicts and they always play the victim in my experience. Deep down we always know when we are fighting a losing battle and he is not making you happy is he? This separation is giving you the chance to heal so my advice would be to not let him re-open your wounds.
I really hope that things work out for you whatever it is you decide to do x