Really appreciate you taking the time to reply & I’m really sorry you’re going through this too.
It’s the manipulation and lies that’s so difficult isn’t it? So many excuses that almost sound plausible and turning it around to make you feel you’re the paranoid one in the wrong. I definitely don’t think I’ve got over that!
You’re right, we do have a lot on our plate. I know all the leaflets say to focus on yourself but it’s hard when you have to be on top of the money! We are in debt and if he starts using again we wouldn’t have enough to pay the mortgage etc so I have to focus on him and what he’s doing to make sure we have a home. I feel like I probably do need some help to sort my head out but it’s more about coming to terms with it all. Glad I found this forum.