I guess only your husband will know if he is living the life he wants to. But I do know one thing, that most addicts who admit they have a problem, don’t want to live this life and hate it, and we try are best to stop. I’ve been doing it 11 years and it’s mostly at weekends, quite a few times it was only once every few week. But I always said I’d never do meetings or rehab because of work. But I joined CA in Dec. So I guess it’s how bad you want it aswell. You really do need a good support network. Pocket rehab is a good app tell him. It’s like a facebook home page with all addicts talking to each other and can ask for help. It’s very useful.
He sounds like my gf screaming at me for a plate. Just remember none of this is your fault, you can say all you want to him but when that downer kicks in he will just be feeling awful and depressed. Just leave him be. But that’s up to. I tell my gf stop reminding me what I’ve done and I’ve messed up again. I don’t want her to make me feel worse, if that makes sense.
There was a doctor on my meeting last night who use be on it for 3 days on end. It effects everyone. I always say is that we’re just stuck in a big rut and need get new hobbies and things to do to keep us busy, mentally and physically.