Thank you that makes things clearer, that’s good that your kids always got what they needed and your weren’t in debt as this is what I worry with him, his ex partner does all the providing for his children a long with his mum, he buys the odd thing here and there but generally it’s his mum that pays, he has drug dealers and csa on the case so I guess that shows how bad it is 🙁 he holds down a good job but I worry that could all go too, he has no boundaries or rules in his life he just does whatever he wants, he is clean though like you say Coke can make you not take care of yourself. He just pushes everything away that’s good for him but like you say it’s the pull of that one thing nothing else, he doesn’t communicate well is that a thing too? If something is bothering him he wouldn’t talk about it, he used to say to me “communicate with me” and when I did he gave me a load of promises and then ran, when confronted by this he said he tried to fix it but he didn’t, I have heard so many horror stories of dealers getting people to do things for them if they owe money, his mum is enabling him which I know is so hard to not give money, she is so poorly and he still does this to her, I guess this just shows what it does to mindset and how it impacts others around it all. How is your recovery going? Think I saw on an earlier post your Manchester aren’t you? I work in the city centre 🙂
