Reply To: My partners addiction

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I am so sorry you husband is putting you through all this stress.

I always find it so charming how they get there high why we sit at home getting a low…

So my partner used substance occasionally off and on for 10years.

I was 16 when I met him and kinda didn’t know any better. As life went on and I became a first time mum I wanted a change this life style no longer was okay.

My partner did the same thing he would disappear for 3 to 4 days come home give me some sob story shower/sleep and leave the next day… his addiction cause alot of issues and landed him in jail for 3 years. I believe this gave him that break we both actually needed. When he was released he was clean for another 4 years… like I said in my previous post those 4 years were the best of my life nothing could of been better… unfortunately it took a drug dealer moving into our street. A few conversations later good bye happy life. I noticed about 6 months ago things were changing. Behaviour -mouth was dry and jittery. All the symptoms I needed really just not his honesty when I asked…

(are you using again) Of course I got all the stories you would need to be convinced otherwise. I even believe it was me self destroying my relationship maybe even being too paranoid.

Until I got the receipt from the chemist last wensday confirmation he brought a fit pack to inject.

I guess it couldn’t be anymore clear and no lie or story could change what I knew… so on Thursday I asked him to leave.. of course he did it was a perfect opportunity to go get high AGAIN…..

He returned on Friday just sitting in my backyard on the table very spokey and yes high as… I asked him to leave as I was feeling unsafe he started yelling at me. I think my neighbours called the police as the came knocking at my door. They gave my partner a move on notice for 24 hours. He absolutely flipped out and took on 5 police officers. He was arrested and is currently waiting in jail for a court hearing. I keep thinking what if I said the wrong thing to him… that could of been me getting attacked. I took a restraining order out so he actually can’t come back to the house. I’m sharing this with you because they can change so quickly. I’m not sure how your partner behaves but mine went from the man I would of married to the biggest nightmare within months.. I have no idea how I should be feeling and I guess he won’t even care or remember the pain I’m going through.

I have no idea what to do next I’m 35 and I don’t want to keep living this up and down life. Iv never touched drugs and I would never touch it. It has destroyed everything in my life already without having tried it.

I hope you are safe and don’t spend to much of your time stressing about you husband. I know its hard but they wouldn’t be sitting with there dealer discussing or thinking of how upset we are. X

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