I have been gathering myself mentally and financially for the last year luckily. I have been letting him pay more of the bills and contributing less so that I save money in my own account. I told him this so as not to hide the fact. Again another step I have taken to feel calmer as when I found out we had no savings and my options just seemed bleak. I hope coming out of lockdown restrictions my options will be easier. Whatever I chose to do.
Its good to hear what you felt about the sleeping all weekend. I see it in him also. He wants to get up and play games with our son and when he does get up he is good with him. If I had tried to get him up we would have had hours of grumpyness and chaos and him telling my son that he is always allowed to get his own way – usually in response to the fact my son wants to play with him and he doesn’t so my son plays up in response.
I do find it hard how to talk to my son about it. I tell him that daddy is not well. I remind him that sleeping all day is not normal and that his dads behaviour is because he is unwell and not because of us.
The other day my son said to me that daddy sleeps all day because of me. So I’m not really getting through to him or explaining well so far I guess.