Hi FaithnotFear,
Furstly, well done for having the courage to post. Many people find themselves in a situation like you, and your husband is typical of a recreational user who got hooked. Cocaine is a sly drug and you never know when it will take hold. It gets to the point where you are constantly chasing the good feeling, and then it turns to just using it to feel normal, not good. Then its too late.
My husband is late 40’s, and he used coke recreationally for 10 years, then for 10 years it was a problem, in varying degrees. He’s quite strong willed and he struggled. He was clean for months here and there after a ‘moment’ where he thought, what am I doing?!’ He is now 13 months clean, did it himself (with support from me of course) he cannot drink alcohol anymore either as the two were linked. It is possible to stop, but he’ll need time, make sure he eats properly and spends time with positive influences, not coke users! Coke users tend to be pretty selfish, and they dont care that your husband is trying to stay clean, they just want someone to do it with.
Thinking of you, and sending love x