There are loads of videos on you tube about recovery. They help me alot.
It’s probably a good idea just have a meal and have no talk about that stuff. It will just drain you both keep going on about it.
I know what your saying about shutting him out isn’t the answer. You do have to work at relationships. Plus I have thought a lot about if it was my gf doing exactly what I did? How mad I would be, would I stay with her?.
I guess I don’t know that answer until it did happen. But I would stick around as she has helped me, and took me back twice. But also I’ve been wanting to quit for years and Im always coming up with solutions to stop.