Hi Esta,
Thank you for replying, I actually feel better each time I read one of your messages! I’ve been feeling stronger each day that passes with no contract & feel like the cloud is lifting every day so I can see things for what they really are – now I don’t have all the guilt tripping & worrying with being in contact with him I’m finally starting to put things in to perspective. I know things will inevitably unravel for him & the truth will be out – like you I live in a small village so to begin with when he was spreading all the lies about me I felt like I couldn’t go anywhere & that everyone was judging & blaming me as he was shouting it from the rooftops that he was having a mental breakdown because I’d left him (more tactics to avoid the truth coming out & a LOT of people bought in to it) – but now his actions are speaking louder than his words & the truth is starting to circulate. I suspect he’ll end up in the same situation as your ex & tbh I think that’s the best place for him. I deleted all pictures of him off my social media & blocked him as I do not want to be associated with him & that stuff in any way, shape or form. I too lost 1.5 stone in a month from stress & worry, like you say, the sleepless nights, the constant churning in your stomach & anxiety levels through the roof – and then having to go to work & try to function like a normal person while you’re living in a nightmare & they are high as kites (and in my case having sex with anyone he can). I don’t miss that at all either, his poor parents will have that now & the silly girls he’s been manipulating over the last few months. I’m glad I’ve got to a stage where I can say they are welcome to it!! I wouldn’t wish what I’ve been through on anyone but it’s so shocking how many people are in the same boat! We can only keep getting stronger & rebuilding our own lives now & hopefully one day this will all just be a distant memory xx