Yes I think that’s the hardest part when you first discover what they have been doing that you feel like there’s something wrong with you, that it’s your fault and you worry what people will think even though it’s nothing we are doing we somehow straight away blame ourselves and then funny enough as soon as you confront them they also try to put the blame on you- this is another thing that I have learnt is very typical of an addict. One thing to bear in mind as that we don’t know what all these perfect families may secretly be going through, all these ‘real’ husbands and fathers could be upto anything behind closed doors- as you know people don’t speak out about most things for fear of embarrassment and what will people think. Also maybe in future years when you are getting your life back together from all of this could you make people closer to your aware of how you feel having received nothing for mother’s day maybe a friend/family member will step in and help your little ones make a card or buy a little something. Or another thing maybe just make the day special for yourself, arrange something for the day with them and tell them it’s for Mother’s Day, make yourself feel special and important as you are just because he hadn’t appreciated you, you deserve to enjoy to day and you don’t need him to do that.
