Hi,
Thanks to everyone for sharing their stories. But I must admit they are terrifying me. I’ve recently realised that my boyfriend of 4 years is addicted to alcohol and cocaine. He realises this too, and 2 months ago got help from his gp, started AA and CA meetings. But tonight I find he’s been back using cocaine for the past 3 weeks and has already mounted up a pile of debt (I had just helped him repay £2500 cocaine debts). He isn’t violent or insulting when he is high, just distant, where I feel that I am living alone. He isn’t out partying but taking cocaine in secret, often at work.
He said that he can’t control the urge to get cocaine and can’t confide in me as he’s scared I’ll leave him.
I’m at an age where I want to get married and start a family. He says he wants this too but it seems to me cocaine is his only priority. I’m scared that he has went for help and it hasn’t worked. I’m worried that if I stay with him, the lies, deceit and financial problems will destroy any future we could have. I’m worried that down the line it’s inevitable that our life will turn out like the original posters story. I don’t know if I can or where to start to help him. I feel myself turning into a paranoid wreck. I really don’t know if it’s just time for me to run away from it all? Has anyone’s relationship actually recovered from addiction?