Sadly it does not sound like he is ready to get better. Has he told his ca people that he is using again?
I don’t know what i would do if my husband started up again, i think it would have to be game over because he would definitely have to leave his business and therefore we would lose our house. And i certainly won’t be able to bail him out..i would have to prioritise my kids and myself.
He has this chance and he is glad to be out of it.
My husband says he got stuck in a rut and couldn’t see a way out. He was ashamed of what he was doing and kept telling himself that it would be the last time, but then found himself getting more.
Now it came out he is out of the rut and has completely changed his patterns and routines so that he isn’t on the same pathways that directed him to using. Like he comes home and cooks us dinner, instead of sitting in work doing it and rather than hiding away in his room at home where he was mostly on it, he comes upstairs and talks to us instead.
The whole thing is a pattern of behaviour that needs to change, not just the substance use.
Does your boyfriend know how much he is hurting you? That stuff does make them heartless though. If he won’t get off it then you’re going to have a road to heartbreak.
So many of us going through all this it seems xx