The problem is when I first found out I thought it was very occasional so although I disapproved I didn’t actually make a big thing of it which was obviously a massive error on my part, but at the time I was obviously very naive to it, I didn’t really know anything about it and also didn’t realise he had such an addictive personality. I now know so much more. So all of this means I kept what I thought was a small problem to myself for so long, I only found out what a big problem it was when it turned out he owed someone lots of money, this has actually happened a few times since. I have spoken to a couple of people about it. It turned out his family already knew but they thought the problem had died down when he met me.they obviously don’t know very much about addictions either and assumed it would just go away.
Yes he’s somewhere between in denial and wanting to stop. The problem is that absolutely everyone he socialises with is into this- I know this situation has been designed by himself but blaming him for this still doesn’t help to get away from the problem. Is it realistic to think that a grown man can manage without socialising. Even the few family member he bothers with and any work colleagues he likes all use cocaine. I cannot believe myself the amount of people that use it, I thought he was lying at first when he said the people who do, but now Iv learnt more it’s obvious to see that they do.