I think you are probably right,
although she is so stubborn and awkward in general that I think its like a defense mechanism in her brain, that if anyone is “attacking” her, she turns into a different person and attacks back harder.
of course this means that any attempt to ever discuss anything she has done to hurt me means I am “attacking” her by talking about it.
so it is just a complete catch 22.
basically the options are keep your mouth shut or split up, that’s all she offers and I am so sick and tired of it now.
the saying “my way or the highway” is her approach to people in general and the relationship is certainly no exception to this.
Hope the rehab isn’t a waste of time, and he is ready to see it through when he gets out, for your sake as much as his own.
but yes of course, all trust is gone, yet my partner in the next breathe will seem shocked that I don’t believe a thing she says, is he like that too, like they are so quick to forget the way they have treated people.