“if anyone is “attacking” her, she turns into a different person and attacks back harder.
of course this means that any attempt to ever discuss anything she has done to hurt me means I am “attacking” her by talking about it.” That is all classic drug behaviour.
With regard to the trust thing, no my partner knows what he’s done. He has apologised more than once and said that he totally understands there is no trust. He has a lot of things to face in rehab, his own issues and unresolved things… but he has for a long time acknowledged his behaviour towards me, the lies, the deceit, the abuse… I have written him many letters – before he went to rehab.
Maybe you could write a letter?