Well I’m already at the point you don’t want to be at. I’m on my own with our children (both under 2) and he hasn’t seen them for over two months now. We have sold our family home that I left not realising I would never be going back (because I didn’t know about the drugs at this point and I will be having my belongings and my children’s moved for me).
Even if he wanted to try our home would Be gone as I understand it can be a trigger to be in places they have used.
Going it alone is the hardest and saddest thing I have ever had to do. I have days where I just don’t know how I am clinging on and I get so angry with him that he just doesn’t care. Not emotionally not financially- not anything. I get nothing except him wanting to virtually see the children yet he cut them off without a penny for over a 5 weeks (it’s not about money I know but I don’t work) and refuses to discuss maintenance payments with me – it’s his form of control and manipulation that I will continue to need him I think.
My family although disappointed and shocked would have supported us should he have chosen to act responsibly and accountably but he then went further off the rails after the admission (cutting us off, temper etc) so he has continued to damage and hurt us hugely.
I thought he wanted change but I think I just caught him out and he had to say what he thought he had to say. He is proven liar so I can’t trust a word that comes out his mouth. We have had no proof that he is on a programme or that he is even clean (he is saying he is but only when I ask him – he isn’t desperate to get his relationships back).