firstly thank you for replying to my post.
Reading your story is very similar to mine.
It’s so hard to walk away, easier to keep making excuses for them and blame addiction.
My husband was dismissed from his job for using cocaine at work and engaging in sexual activities with a colleague in the work car park!
He blamed the drugs, I heard the same spill about enjoying drink and drugs with this women, because he couldn’t with me.
I can tolerate alot, but affairs can not be excused by their addictions. Its just enabling that behaviour on top of the lieing.
I’m on day 5 of his latest disappearing bender. My children have not asked for him once, we are all calmer. I feel an emptiness, my stomach is still in my throat through anxieties… but its not for his well being this time, its for the fear of him coming back and me giving in.
My husband will never stop, losing his family will just give him another excuse to use and pitty himself. His future is looking very bleek.
We know the answers to our own questions, its just being brave to take actions.
Lots of love xx