He said as much he wants to change but he can’t. Even it is coke, I still think if he really wants he can, it could be hard but it is not impossible.
Before I read your message I sent him a message I said if he can’t change I will leave. If that’s his choice then be it. I have a 6 years old to look after, I can’t be ill and now I feel I’m ill mentally and physically. I believe in fate. If it is meant to be, then be it. I have tried 5 years with him. I have put up enough. I can not see hope. They can promise but it means nothing.
You are right we need to think about ourselves, we have been thinking about them enough. I hope your husband will change, but right now I think if I don’t put too much hope on to it I would feel better. Take care xx