Yes that’s how I’m getting, trying not to expect or hope too strongly as it is such a powerful addiction and if I put all my hope in the disappointment is just too much when he does it again.
If they are ready there are things they can do to try to stop and that is in their control but I am also trying to bear in mind what a powerful substance this is.
As I read more it seems that the urge to do it might never go away but they have the power to resist that urge, and only they can do it. No matter what we say.
All I mean is that as much as we love them we do not have to stay in this situation and they need to realise that. How would they feel if it was us that were unreliable and just left. Yes we might always want to be there but we also need to take care of ourselves. I have been concentrating on work and also I have been back in touch with some friends and also family that I don’t always make time for as I have been always trying to worry about where he is or what he might be doing. Another thing I have been trying to take care of my house and garden, and things to make my own life nicer.
There’s a lot of people on here that have ended up on medication from this situation, it’s important to get the help if you need it. I don’t feel too bad like that at the moment as mine did stop the staying out all night, so there is hope that your partner could stop the staying out all night. You probably won’t get a sensible answer out of him if he’s messaging back while he’s out doing and also when he’s on a come down when he returns home.