Yes from what I am reading it’s a long journey if you stay with them or not.
Well Im watching a show on Amazon prime called neurosciences of addiction and it’s talking about changes in the brain etc so I think it’s more powerful than we know. I know what you mean why can’t they just shake out of it and put us first but it is like other illness and their body tricks them to think they need this.
I’m glad you are starting to think of yourself. Whether he is there or not you have still got to live and make your life the best you can.