I’m glad that you are having this great realisation and I’m sad for you that it’s so late in the situation.
I’m sure your girlfriend does love you but with a small baby she is probably struggling to cope as it is and maybe at the moment she feels like she can’t look after you aswell. Maybe you need to give her some time to prove you can keep this up and she probably feels like she’s the one that needs support at the moment.
when you have a new baby you start thinking about the future, how it’s life is going to be and how your life will be together and how your relationship will affect the child, as a mother all this stuff so far in the future goes through your mind.
Even though she could maybe cope with it for just you two the situation changed when you bring a baby into it. She just wants the best for your baby and is probably worried that you won’t keep this up and scared what it will mean for the baby.
Well done for getting where you are. I understand your upset but I think you are going to have to give it some time. After all the years anyway surely you can give her a bit of time to get her head around all this.
For me its not a case of trying to catch them out but all of your lies make us doubt ourselves so much and make us feel like we are going mad.
(Speaking of mom of two kids with addict dad who has put us in financial difficulties more than once due to cocaine debts.)