Hi Scaredmom, welcome to the forum, Everyone here has been affected by addictions.
Its such a worry when you find out that your loved one is addicted to alcohol or drugs, and you feel powerless to help them.
It’s only natural that we think the worst , please don’t blame yourself, as many of us do. The choice is totally theirs.
Unfortunately until they themselves decide to stop and realise that it’s taking over their lives there is little we as parents can do.
The forum homepage has help and support, as do the Icarus Trust who offer advice too.
If you click on ‘share your story ‘ and read the Theresa thread there are several of us mums with sons helping and support each other. No need to feel that you’re alone in this nightmare.
My son is 28yr and has alcohol and cocaine addictions for several years, so I know what you are going through.
When he is ready to accept support the AA fellowship have online meetings. They do a 12 step program and he could get a sponsor. The support they receive is brilliant.
Don’t give up hope, be strong, look after yourself and remind him that he’s still loved. The rest is down to him.
Always hear to chat,
Take care
Lx