I found your post extremely understanding and sympathetic to your husbands disease.
I have been married 35 years. My husband is an alcoholic. He has some serious medical problems, seizures being the scariest but as a retired nurse l have been fortunate as far asl know to be there when it happens.
We have both been retired fora number of years so spend a lot of time together. We do have a type of hobby that l won’t go into but we do it together.anyhow, back to the drinking. Though l don’t think it’s any worse than it’s always been, the verbal abuse is leaving me more and more in a state of dislike and disgust for him. It’s getting to the point that l don’t even like him touching me. I told him this morning that l felt like that but l don’t think it registered. I read that l should detach myself which is what l am going to do. Not just for my sanity but l am afraid that l may become violent as l cannot tolerate his comments. I know he’s spoiling for a row but l go out rather than engage. This all sounds so stupid as we can get on well at times.