Hello I can resonate 100%. Our son has been using coke for at least 15 years we found out recently, he’s 33. Initially we thought he just had a gambling problem as he played roulette in the bookies and online and built up massive debts but the coke became more of a habit and the gambling got worse as he was trying to pay for the coke. We only found out about all of this 3 years ago when his wife had had enough. They had a baby 6 months previously anyway she kicked him out, he came here I payed off some of his debts £40,000 (big big mistake) he was a horrible, horrible person. Nasty words, threatening behaviour, paranoia etc etc. Moved into his own place 10 months ago all good because he had the share of the house from the divorce but that soon went. Now he’s broke and is still doing it, begging for money, lying to his girlfriend about why he can’t facetime because he’s used, no friends, in bed all the time. His dad is broken and can’t take any more of the abuse. I want to cut all ties coz he’s bleeding us dry again but at the same time my heart is breaking because this is my son who was the apple of mine and my husbands eye. It started as they all do nights out when they’re young, but 15 years later its going to kill him. I need strength to stop enabling him but the crying, pleading and begging kills me. He’s still working and still has his beautiful boy at weekends. Thursday we found out he’d done it for the past 3 days so what does he do, beg and cry for the money and what do, I do stump it up! Every time he says it’s the last and he’s not doing it, last summer he did for 4 months but then it started again. I know we’re nearly at the end because he will die. We can’t afford rehab now. We are so desperate ????
