Thanks Danman, your story gives me hope. You’ve done so well, I know it’s very hard and something you have to think about every day. My son has got clean and relapsed a few times. His life now is so different from what it was, great job, own flat, now he’s in our spare room, which is a bit of a tip most of the time. All of his cash has been going on cannabis to help him with coming off heroin. Now his cash is split between cannabis and heroin. He’s not violent or horrible and he’s never stolen from us but I’m not sure letting him stay has helped him. Even fir the months he was off heroin he was just zonked out on cannabis. I just feel so sad about the whole thing. It’s hard to find any joy in life when you have your adult child in a dark room wasting his life. I know he wants to get clean but only if he can sit in his room and get his support off Reddit. My son doesn’t like engaging with my partner and I worry that this is why he keeps to his room. I wonder if he’d be different if it was just the 2 of us living together. I know he feels a lot of shame. I feel very guilty if this situation is making things worse. His dad is useless and doesn’t understand how bad things are. They haven’t seen each other for about 2 years. It’s very hard for everyone on here, and very good of you to help us to understand how it feels on the other side of this situation.
