I think it’s good when partners stick around during bad times like these. Because we have to think would we do it if it was the other way round, and you shouldnt give up on people. So please don’t think suggesting to move on lol.
If you watch dr gabor I think his name is on you tube. He’s done loads of studies and addictions are from a childhood trauma. This is why on one of the steps off AA, step 4 is resentments. I had a lot towards my dad as he was scary with his temper and emotional abuse. Sorry if I have already said this I’ve spoke to so many people on here I forget lol. And we need to move on from these resentments. My sponsor said its like having hot coal in your hand. You need to let go or its gonna keep hurting you.
Another step is step 8 I think is were we make amends to people we have harmed. It’s like a cleansing working these steps and frees us from self pity and resentment.
I don’t know the full ins and outs. But it doesn’t seem that much, a lot of people have a few cans after work and a glass of wine. My mum n dad have done it for years and they are just normal average people. A lot of signs were it is bad is hiding beer around the house, shakes ect.. He’s not on spirits is he? So the unit intake is not to bad. He might be going for a walk then having a drink because he don’t want to upset you. And just fancys a beer. But then doing this is sneaking off to have a drink because u need one. But I don’t want to be making assumptions here. Only you can judge this.
I understand why your doing it, and you want to knock it on the head now before it’s too late. Just keep and eye on him and have a quiet chat. See if he will cut it down to a few cans on sat maybe. But this is entirely up to you. Just go with what u think is best.
God’s honest truth she’s not really supportive. I say I’m 3 months clean now, she just mumbles well done, 3 of her mates have put more effort in and said they are proud of me and that cheered me up. She’s been on coke with me a few times, but won’t have it now. Her friend has coke aswell and she is my trigger sometimes when she’s at mine, but she still invites her round knowing I will have coke with her. So she’s not that supportive. But then again she’s had enough. So I can’t blame her. I’ve told her none of her mates can come for a while now. She has to go theres. Lol.