Bloody hell I’m suprised he is not worse than this with his past. Such a shame losing him mum so early.
I’m no expert but this more or less likely makes him like this with drink. It’s the classic drink and forget about it all. But alcohol is a depressant and makes it worse.
I’ve seen people share were they have been sexual abused by there parents and they have had to forgive them. One woman, her own mum kept on locking her under the sink as a kid and was hitting her. And I’m talking for hours maybe longer. And she forgave her.
Each to there own though. But it is suppose to help us move on and not let them win if this makes sence. Being the better person. Because if we don’t it effects the addict and all the family around.
I just read a a book called the twins of auswich, about the concentration camp, and the German doctor who was called the angel of death. He tortured twins and had an obsession with them, doing all sorts of experiments on them. Anyway in the book, she goes back to the auswich camp and forgives this doctor mengele, because she needed to move on, and that some people are just ill and we need to pray for them. And she felt so much better when she did. I guess it just don’t have to work in recovery aswell.
But everyone is different some people just are beyond forgiveness.
You probably have tried it already but just sit down both of you and talk amicably about it and meet each other half way, and set some healthy boundarys. Tell him its making you ill and you want to work as a team and build for the future together.
Thanks for your lovely comments, I’ve been coming on here about 2 year now I think and talking to you and others on here helps me in my recovery so much. So thanks ❤️