Hi Wagtail, welcome to the forum, everyone here has a loved one who has addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice too.
Thank you for sharing your story, so similar to many here as you will see.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions, he’s 28yrs, been “troubled” since 14yrs. I understand some of what you are going through. It’s so difficult to get on with our own lives for worrying about their lives.
I just wanted you to know that there’s no need to feel alone.
Adfam has support on their homepage also the Icarus trust posts here too.
If you click on to ‘share your story ‘ and read the Theresa thread, there are several of us mums with sons with addictions. Everyone is so understanding and supportive . Also, Danman83 is a person in recovery offering support and advice too.
Please find time to look after yourself and your well being, don’t let this addiction consume your lives too.
Always here to chat
Take care
Lx