Hey,
Thanks for your last reply, I really do appreciate your comments and recommendations. It’s so valuable to me and many others sharing your experience they way you have so I hope you know how much I appreciate it!
We’ve had an ok week this week. My other half said he wouldn’t drink all week, and he had I think one drink on Sunday and that was it. I think he’s struggling with it but our biggest challenge is he will just not talk about it. I asked him yesterday how he’s feeling having not had a drink all week, just really calm and normal and he goes straight on the defensive ‘why are you going on about it like I’ve got a big problem, I’m fine’ so I said I was just trying to show him some compassion and he said ‘I don’t need compassion’. It breaks my heart at times but talking just isn’t something he can do.
I went shopping earlier and he asked if I would buy beers. I said I wouldn’t and he said ‘I haven’t had any for ages’ and it’s just made me feel so disheartened because I know now when he gets money next week he’ll buy them. And you know what? All the way around the supermarket, I feel so guilty. I looked down the aisle loads of times, it was actually hard not to because I knew he was peed off I wouldn’t buy them. He’s barely spoken to me since I got home.
I’m trying to be really open minded and remember that him not drinking for this many days is a big thing and no doubt it’s not pleasant for him. It’s still hard though.
Anyways…each day as it comes I suppose! I’m in touch with this family support group locally and they’ve been doing Zoom meetings in the pandemic, but it’s on a Friday afternoon and I can’t make it most weeks because of work. But they just set up a group WhatsApp and sent loads of other local support groups through for families so I am going to think about going to one of those.
Hope you’ve had a good week! Look after yourself, keep in touch! ☺️