Thank you for the reply Leda,
My partners birthday so it’s been one of those evenings.
I’m just drained.
I am in the UK so will start a diary as it’s reached a stage where my mental health is finally taking a hammering.
That capacity to look me in the eyes and ‘correct’ me so fervently ‘it’s only a problem because you make it etc.’ it just wears you down. The warped logic employed is fascinating after a while. But it all just makes me so sick that I’m having to choose my children whom I can protect over someone I cannot – but needs protecting/care more. Ultimately it is a no-brainer (i think?), but the possibility of her self-destructing in response is a huge factor as well.
I will start the diary as it might help on a number of levels.
Thanks again for the response.