Hi Jap this was all new to us 3 years ago too. We had never had anything do with drugs and didn’t know anyone who did them so you can imagine how devastating it was to us as parents to find out our son was using coke on a regular occurrence. We knew he was a gambler but it wasn’t until our grandson was born that it all came to a head and we possibly wouldn’t have known if they decided not to have children. I can only advise on the experience we have gone through and the advice we were given at family drugs counselling sessions we used to go to. I didn’t want to see my son break up his family but she had no choice but to ask him to leave because he was making her a nervous wreck never knowing if she’d be able to feed the baby or pay the bills, she had to think of the baby. It broke us when all this happened and my husband is still unable to come to terms with what his son has done and because he is still using despite saying he doesn’t want to and promises to quit on many occasions. We should be sitting pretty financially at our age but sadly our funds have depleted because of his pitiful begging for us to help him, sorry that should read enable him because that is what we were in effect doing. We’ve all been sucked in with his promises and lies for too long. He was clean for 3 months last summer but it didn’t last. So you can see why I say give yourself a break. If you’ve got good relationships with your family then you will get through it. She divorced him but I know she still loves him deep down and they have a good relationship surrounding their son but it would have been horrendous if she’d stayed it was so toxic because of my son.
