Hi Heartbroken first of all I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through this but it’s such a similar story to a lot of us on here. My son is the addict and his wife asked him to leave 3 years ago after having had enough of the exact same treatment as you. His dad describes him as the devil and we have all suffered abuse, blame and vile behaviour from him. Sadly nothing has changed except for last summer when he was clean for 3 months. We live every day questioning his every action, comment and behaviour wondering if its the coke or his normal personality. I suspect the coke tbh. Today I drove past his flat to see if his car had moved from the parking place he had last night but it hadn’t as if it had, I know he would have gone out to get some. But on calling in with his dogs tonight I could tell he has been using as he was twitching and when I asked what he was going to get his son for his 3rd birthday he admitted he didn’t have any money as he’d been using again. He has had thousands off of us so he knows that boat has sailed. He absolutely adores his son and Like you we thought that would be enough to stop him but sadly not. I’ve said it many times on here to women who are suffering because of their addict partner but the best thing you can do is leave as their lives will be horrendous for years to come so I’m glad for your family’s sake that you are starting this process. Good luck xx
