is it 20 years you have been with your partner?
totally know what you mean, one minute they want help and support, and the next minute they are throwing all that help back in your face and accusing you of trying to control them etc.
a friend of mine described me well in that I’m not controlling I am in control. which are quite different things.
and surely if I did want to be controlling people I picked the worst family ever to meet that demand as they are out of control ha, surely I would have found some timid quiet girl to bully about, but of course I’m not that person that’s just her drug manipulation painting me that way.
I’m not a driver for a job, I run stores and dispatch of the factory, but a few years ago we sold a lot of bulky items that were going straight to sites so I would always volunteer to do the driving to get out the factory for the day. Since then we have changed the core of the business so most stuff goes out with dpd or on pallets so the driving pretty much stopped, also I no longer have anyone else in my department to leave looking after things so I don’t like driving anymore as it means neglecting my actual job and coming back to chaos ha.