Hi Debzie, welcome to the forum, we all have loved ones who have addictions and some people in recovery offering support and advice.
It’s difficult to know what to say as everyone’s situation us different.
The forum has support so do Icarus trust who post here.
I usually go onto the Theresa thread click on ‘share your Story ‘. There are several of us mums with sons who have addictions, everyone is a great support to each other.
I think you need to give him guidelines about what’s acceptable and what’s not, and that you won’t be paying off any more debt. Although it’s easier said than done.
Please don’t feel alone, and please look after yourself and the rest of family.
Keep in touch on here too.
My son is 28yrs and is addicted to cocaine and alcohol. Hes had periods where he’s been clean, but then relapses unfortunately, but this is normal I’m told.
Always here to chat
Lx