Hello x
I’m in a situation where my sister is an cocaine addict , her husband was an alcoholic and cocaine addict (he died in-front of his kids a few months ago now)
Aged 46!
I have found out my partner is using crack and smoking heroin at the weekends when I’m not with him. I’m heart broken, devastated! (That’s another story!)
My answer to you is try and support him. Has he been to his GP? Does it will he attend a therapy group?
My sister was using coke and spending every penny on it. Sat in her house on her own whilst her kids slept upstairs.
Coke was the most important thing in her life the kids were left with no food some days and neglected!
But she didn’t care all she cared about was getting her gear.
3 maybe 4 years on from her saying she wanted to get clean she is finally trying and has been clean 20 weeks but had one relapse when her husband died.
She attends through her gp and social services a drugs group and they drug test her we have also purchased tests online which we get her to do.
In the past few years we tried taking her back cards giving her only small amounts of money , having the kids as social threatened to take them.
I’m not sure what broke her really I think it was the threat of losing her children for good.
Maybe you need to tell your partner to seek help get into a group to discuss his problems. Threaten him that he will lose his child because if he spirals out of control he will definitely lose you and your child.
Cocaine is a terrible drug and people don’t understand how much is grips somebody!
My sister broke down many times telling us how much she hates doing it and doesn’t want to do it but the urge the addiction drags her in.
I still to this day find it hard to work out how anything can become more important than your own child/children.
Try and support your partner it’s early days but he needs to be honest with you. And most of all he needs to want to stop xxxx