Thanks! Really appreciate your insights.
We are drinkers, the times I suspect he does it aren’t sober during the day but when we’ve had some drinks. Can someone say have a few glasses of wine, a line, and then sit and watch a movie? Or just sit around a backyard fire and not seem weirdly overly chatty or confident/arrogant? Almost like normal I guess I’m saying. The times I know he’s done it when we were out with his friends he always gets overly confident and loud and that is NOT sober him.
He doesn’t go to the bathroom a weird amount, but sometimes goes for a long time. Then again he never did go to the bathroom a lot even when his problem was bad.
Some background….pre lock down he had a 1-3x per week habit. I just didn’t realize it! Not to make excuses but coke runs rappant in the sales industry he works in. I can look back now and see how bad it was (and he’s admitted he got bad). Since April 2020 he’s barely seen “Bill” who was his primary using buddy. I do trust that he’s gotten mostly clean just based on how great our lives are and how little he goes out, but obviously I posted here for a reason.
I know he hates that he used (uses?). Last time I know for sure he did was in March. He went out to bills as I was out of town for the night. He admitted it, as I confronted him the best day because I could tell from his texts. Weird I can tell from texts but not when he’s right beside me under our own roof!