It’s pretty hard for an addict to realize what’s going on around him. Nothing he does is ever his fault, and no matter how you approach him, he will feel like you’re attacking him.
I don’t know if he admits that he has a problem, but it might be time for him to get help if he does. Being supportive is excellent, but there’s so much you can do.
Talking to someone who’s been where he is can be beneficial for him and you. That’s why I’m writing to you.
We have to look deeper than the cocaine addiction. Cocaine is the band-aid that hides a deeper scar. Depression, low self-esteem, low self-confidence are all after-effects of cocaine use. They can be highly damaging to him and his surrounding. As I can read, it has already begun.
You wrote that he’s willing to talk about it to sort things out. It might be a good time to see if he’s ready to get help for his addiction. Ask him in a non-confronting way, of course. Addicts need support from people who understand what they’re going through and who’s better than an ex-addict.
If he doesn’t want help or thinks he doesn’t need help, you can’t, unfortunately, do anything more. He has to be ready to get clean for himself and be dedicated to his well-being.
You need to make a decision that will benefit you and your family. Trust is something that is built with concrete actions and not words. It’s never easy to live with an addict because you never know if he’s lying or not.
Remember that an addict lies to be able to continue his addiction. He doesn’t realize how much he’s hurting the people closest to him. His addiction is the number one thing, and everything else is secondary.
I hope that you’ll have a positive talk with him and I wish you the best. Have a great day.