Hi Leedsgal, welcome to the forum. Everyone here has a loved one who has addictions.
I was sorry to read your story and wanted to tell you not to feel alone with this nightmare.
I don’t have all the answers unfortunately but I know the homepage offer support as does the Icarus trust who post here often. I believe they counsellors who can advise you.
So difficult when it’s a family member as you feel you can’t cut them off in case they deteriorate.
My son has alcohol and cocaine addictions for more than 10 years. He tries to get clean but has had several relapses. It’s a rollercoaster of emotions when there’s addictions in your life.
It’s very stressful, please look after your own health and well-being.
Take care of yourself
Lx