Thank you so much for replying, this is such a lonely road.
This is his second type of anti-d, I think he needs to up the dose, he says he’s fine just bored.
Yes we’ve tried talking to him over and over but trying to “fix” him was really bad for my own mental health. Al Anon helped me to step back and also to realise how abusive he was at the time. I told his parents the truth of what was going on and they got involved, as did his siblings. Eventually he realised he was going to lose his wife and son and at that point got these anti-ds, cut down on the booze and made a lot of empty promises yet again. He did stop the shitty abusive behaviour though, with the drop in alcohol consumption and new meds, which is why we didn’t leave.
He was drinking about 300 units a week, now he has half of that. He has liver damage, memory problems and various vitamin deficiencies. He doesn’t take the supplements he has bought and refuses further blood tests.
The other day I was using a life expectancy calculator online (the weird things living with an alcoholic makes you do!!!) and he came out as likely to die at an age younger than he is now ???? Yesterday he had 7 pints and a bottle of wine that I know of and no food at all, he’s missing out on his life. My son and I have fun hanging out together and we’d love him to join in but he’s so isolated, just him and his alcohol, no space for us ????