Hi, I’m so sorry you’re in this position, I’m in a similar situation. Please don’t believe the ‘it’s all your fault’ rubbish, it’s not your fault, I get the same sometimes so I understand how draining it is. I get ‘you’re so boring’ ‘you just control me so much it’s my only release’ etc. Is the house in your name or both? Does he have anywhere to go?
As awful as it sounds, I would consider leaving before you get any further involved (kids, marriage etc). I would have left a long time ago if I didn’t have children with my partner. Look after yourself x