Wow! Your reply resignates so much with me.
My husband like yours became somebody I didn’t recognise. Our marriage was breaking down and I didn’t know why for 18months the arguments over stupid things became unbearable- I now know this is due to cocaine abuse.
We started living apart from January this year as it become unbearable.
Recently used our separation as an excuse for his breakdown and suicide thoughts however I had an open door policy he could come and spend time with us when ever he wanted, he had tea with us and seen then children all the time. He says he can’t speak to me because I am the one he let down the most. But I’m just unsure about that reason. He was a brilliant dad but I now feel I can not trust him with them or their minds.
He doesn’t see any concern for other people or how his actions affect them, all about his feeling and his help etc.. but like you said we are now left reeling from their actions with no explanation and no future that we had planned. Its been stolen away from us.
It is emotional whiplash.
Same. I gave chance after chance for 10 years lots of support. I was hoping for a future with my husband but now I’m afraid that is not going to happen. Its so sad.
I am also struggling everyday or hour of the day. Life was good, we had good jobs and were comfortable until he blew all the money. He has support and people worrying for him but what about us that are left. Us that are meant to be strong but feel crippled.
I hate being told not to take it personally because it is personal. It’s our life.
Exactly cocaine abuse is a stigma and you’re made to feel embarrassed and can’t talk about it openly. Xx
Thank you so much for your reply. Take care xxx