Hi everyone, I’m in very similar situation
I meet my partner 3 years ago we had the best time of our life’s making plans together to build a family and be happy forever
After a while I found out I was pregnant we both very happy to have a baby
The baby come and things changed , he was always looking himself in the garage saying that he was playing guitar and he doesn’t want to be disturbed …. but ofc I was to find out later that he was actually hiding cos he was taking cocaine … I start to feel unloved and he was only nice to me when he need me to do something for him and he get to the point where he hit me I was feeling so hurt he was unrecognisable telling that I destroyed his life and always running away and hiding
I took my little girl and I moved out thinking that maybe this will make him realise that he is losing his family for drugs … which it did work but not for long
He text me saying that he wants his family back and that all this is killing him .
I quick run back to him thinking that he really meant … then he asked me for help cos he can’t do it on his own
I was looking for places to get him cured and I found a place but when the time to go there and start his therapy came he said that all I am doing is control his life and trying to involve social services to take the kids away from him ( never my intention )
Anyway he doesn’t even call or text to ask about his daughter he totally refuse to help or paying anything for her … so that was just an excuse cos he is not bother about his kids .
I’m scared of what’s gonna happen next never wanted to lose him I love him very much but I can’t see him destroying himself and our family
I wish he will cure himself one day but like I seen in one the comments he will probably build all of our plans with someone else which it hurts me so bad
I wish I could’ve help him and do more but I can’t I just don’t know how
If anyone knows how to help and let me understand if he will ever change I would do anything
Thanks Cristina