Hi Asadmum, welcome to the forum. I was sad to read your story but I wanted you to know that there’s no need to feel alone in this nightmare.
My son is 28 and has cocaine and alcohol addictions. The two go hand in hand unfortunately.
So many people here have loved ones who have addictions and also some people in recovery offering support and advice too.
It’s a relief to speak to the others going through the same issues.
I usually post on the Theresa thread, click onto ‘share your story ‘ there are several of us mums all with sons with addictions. Everyone is so supportive and understanding, but it’s good to vent or seek advice and support from other mums who totally understand you and sympathise with you.
If I can offer any advice it’s that, there’s nothing you can do or say until they admit they have a problem and want support.
My son started taking mild drugs around 14, escalated to alcohol, now cocaine. Its been 14yrs of he’ll honestly. Unfortunately they themselves don’t see it, as the addiction consumes them and turns them into people you don’t recognise any more.
Your lad is still in there, it’s just this evil drug that turns them into monsters.
I wish you well, the forum has a homepage with support and the Icarus trust posts here too for advice and support.
Please look after your own health and well-being and the others in the family. You need to be strong to fight this.
Take care, always hear to chat,
Lx