Hi, I’m so sorry to read what you’ve been through and are going through. It’s totally heart breaking isn’t it.
Was it due to cocaine that impacted his mental health problems? A good friend of mine is currently receiving therapy for his cocaine addiction, but he’s no where near ready to stop, he basically looks for a reason when he can use again. At the moment he is on average using once a week/fortnightly. His behaviour on drugs is over the top, he blames it on the drugs and when he is not using he sounds so remorseful, but cold at the same time. My heart is heavy with the knowledge he is slowly killing himself. I know he is manipulative, as drug users usually are. I just want to help and support him, but my kindness is wearing thin. I read a while ago, when an addict is pleased with you, you’re doing what they want, when they’re annoyed at you, you’re not enabling them.