You have been to hell and back
He has put you through just about everything from the sounds of it and over a long period of time
That’s a hell of a lot to go through for anyone
You have totally been there for him and from what you write it’s very one sided
Can I ask why you don’t think his mum should know and why it is not what he needs?
Maybe she will actually support you; most mothers want their son to be a good man, husband and father
If it was my son I would want to know; and I would be on his case to know why he was putting you and my grandchildren through this hell
Maybe letting her know the truth will help
She can probably see things are not right
truth usually is the best policy and the consequences of his actions need to be faced for him to take ownership
We all have our limits
The fact he planted the evidence to soften the blow of the extra debt to me says he knows he can offload it on to you and you will sort it out
It’s manipulating it from his debt to ‘our’ debt
You are obviously very strong and good person to have been through so much and still continuing to try and help sort all his problems out; but life is so short and you deserve some truth and happiness
To have someone like you in their life is most men’s dream.
if you are not appreciated now; you will be with the right man who lives for and cherishes you every day for the rest of their life knowing they an absolute angel in their life