Hi Kate 1
I’ve read your story and wanted you to know that you’re not alone here. So many of us here with loved ones with addictions.
I wish I had all the answers to give you, my 28yr old son also has alcohol and cocaine addictions, I know how it can consume our lives like it consumes them.
The forum offers advice and support also the Icarus trust posts here too.
Unfortunately until they understand that they have a problem and want to seek help and support, there’s very little that we as parents can do.
It’s a very tough thing to do to stop enabling your loved one.
My son has had periods of being clean through AA and CA meetings and their 12 step program. He’s relapsed a few times too, but I think this happens.
Please look after your own health and well-being in the meantime. Your son is still there, it’s just the addiction that turns them into people you don’t recognise any more. It makes them selfish and unfeeling. They will lash out at the ones who care the most about them..
Please stay strong, read the Theresa thread we are all mums with sons with addictions. Everyone is so understanding and supportive of each other.
Take care ❤
Lx