Hi Kate1
Sounds like i wrote this myself!
My son was dabbling at 14, he always had the excuse…someone must’ve slipped me something…story. But it happened a lot really. Then at 16 started an apprenticeship , the gambling started, things were going missing, he was selling anything of value. I guess by 20 he was a functional addict. He drank a lot, but his room was a tip, and he looked like a vagrant…no offence to vagrants!
I think my son has ocd or adhd, whatever he does, its 100%.
Lx