It took me a long time to get clean in total 21 years but the real problem is learning to engage with people and situations while being sober.
As a user if becomes almost impossible to do things sober once you have started along this road. I couldn’t even sit and watch a film if I was sober because I felt I wouldn’t enjoy it. So I was heavily dependent on numerous substances.
I understand why you go out of your way for him but it shouldn’t be your responsibility and the more he can use you to essentially hold his hand when he messes up the longer it will continue.
I am ashamed of how I used and manipulated my mum and I knew she would cave in if I kept on.
When it got too bad then she had to cut me loose…no more enabling and I was not welcome under the influence.
If I needed to talk or support with getting clean she was there but she wasn’t going to watch me kill myself any longer.