It’s such a hard decision to leave, it’s the logical decision for most of us to leave. But the it’s only us in the situation that understand what it’s like wishing the person we fell in love with back to life. But if he’s not doing anything to help himself and is continuing to beat you down, maybe it’s time to give up wishing.
I left 10 days ago, when I last commented. But I’m still in turmoil over what to do. My leaving has really hit him hard and his whole family are disgusted with him now that the whole truth is out. He’s been saying he wants to change for months but I think the consequences have really hit him this time. He’s now trying every day to get a place in a residential rehab. I’ve decided to go back if he goes to rehab. It all sounds like it’s positive at the minute but I still can’t get over all the hurt from the lies he’s put me through and I hate having to be suspicious all the time so I’m not too optimistic.
I’ve started seeing a family addiction counsellor and honestly I can’t recommend it enough. I initially refused to see a counsellor as I thought it would be about teaching me to be more tolerant with addiction. But it’s completely different, they coach you about how to communicate effectively with your addict and teach you about setting boundaries with them. @she I think this would be very important to you because you need to start looking after you.