Yea, I’m in a completely different situation, we don’t have kids and we were living in a house owned by his family. But I’m not in an ideal situation now, sleeping on an air bed in my friends apartment. And it looks like I’ll go back soon, but if that doesn’t work, rent prices is crazy here so I’m going to have to find a house share to live in.. I’m dreading the thought of that.
Maybe in your situation if it doesn’t work out, you may be asking him to leave. But whatever happens, I think a family addiction counsellor will be a great help to you. I’m in Ireland and I was surprised to find how freely available counselling is here, but if you’re in a country where it is expensive, there’s services like Al anon that’s always free.